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Assignment 4″ Personality” 12/10/11


Personality

Each person has an instinctive personality they are born with. If everyone was the same life would be boring.  I believe each person has some of all traits in them. However environment and how they adapt to change (stress) brings out personality traits that are the strongest.   When that personality trait overpowers them it can become a problem.   Others will find it annoying and small children might even copy the dominant behavior. If the personality trait becomes dangerous to the person or others it is considered a psychological disorder.   Stress or frustration can cause these traits to get out of hand.  Good choices lead to a chain reaction of well adjusted behaviors for generations.

Stress

“Stress is the mental and physical condition that occurs when a person must adjust or adapt to the environment.”   Stress can be a motivator and keep you in check.  Stress can be good for you. The healthy stress motivates you to exercise, eat healthy, and enjoy time spent with family and friends.  The good stress is called eustress.

Distress is stress that is causing unhealthy conditions like sleep deprivation or bad eating habits. Or worse- bad habits forming for when not in distress like smoking or drinking alcohol.

  1. Denial
  2. Repression
  3. Projection
  4. Compensation
  5. Regression
  6. Distraction

Are coping mechanisms to help keep stress under control.  Many times these are automatic and someone is totally unaware this is going on. These mechanisms have been in place usually since childhood.  Sometimes if a child does not have a supportive, nurturing caregiver or allowance to make decisions while young it will affect their personality later in life without realizing why.

Frustration

“Frustration is a negative emotional state that occurs when one is prevented from reaching a goal.” Frustration can be internal or external.

  1. Aggression
  2. Scapegoating
  3. Escape

These are some ways used to cope with frustration.

Humanism

“The humanistic personality theory focuses on experience, potential, problems and ideals. “  All these things affect how people adapt to a situation.  Since I have held a colicky baby that cries very loudly non-stop, that situation does not cause anxiety for me as much.  There is some anxiety because it is unclear why the baby is crying and my mind wants to sooth the baby at all cost.  Anxiety is fear from an unclear threat.

I have potential to pass this class because I am making good grades and not behind in my work.  For this reason I am motivated to keep doing the work.  Potential is a motivator to finish but can also motivate you to stop.  If I was flunking and behind on my work with internal and external frustration on all sides; I would decide this class is non-potential and become a quitter.  I might decide that on-line college is not for me.

Potential to fail is now a problem I must find a way to adapt to finish or choose other options.  Problems are in my life on a daily basis.  Prioritizing them, taking one at a time, and seeking help when needed will keep stress and frustration to a minimum.   Sometimes I take ideals into my head that are not revealed yet because of past experience and caregivers repeating same scenario over and over of failure.

Ideals will make you ponder everything and everyone.  They can overwhelm and create paranoia if not kept in balance.  Be very careful with little children that they are not belittled, put down and made fun of in a bad way. These things could be making them ponder everything and everyone first internally with themselves then others.  Mal-adaptive behavior will most of the time internalize and manifest itself on individual first then come out externally towards others later on.  So as this child grows up into adult years fears and fears with unclear threats will turn into paranoia.  Children that are bullied today could possibly in later years have depression, fears, anxiety and phobias.

One way to overcome this is to face the bully.  All personnel in charge of young children should be able to recognize bullying and step up to dissolve the ridicule of a student. Separation and letting them talk to counselors could help prevent psychological disorders.  The one doing the bullying is externalizing already due to something that was internalized already.  The bully might be to the point of not going to talk about the problem to anyone.  Group talk to the whole class of children might help this child realize and seek help.

The humanistic approach declares that individuals can choose there response to environmental stimuli.  Its your choice to either see a glass half full or half empty.  You are ultimately responsible for your own actions regardless of the environment you are in.  There is one personality that can not repair or does not change only appears to change and that is a sociopath.  The sociopath does not see or understand the bullying of others is wrong.  They do not even see that is what they are doing. The sociopath is thinking that is normal way of life.  It is a personality set in as mechanism from a very early age to just be automatic response to what ever triggered the behavior.

You are born with a temperament and from the temperament grows stronger personality traits provoked by stimuli in the environment.  Each chooses there path and how to respond to the stimuli.  If a child gets what they want from a temper-tantrum they are likely to keep this trait.  Give praise and cheer on children when you see them doing something you like.  This will create healthy adaptive personalities that will carry them far in life.

“A well-adjusted individual is one who adapts to surroundings. If adaptation is  not possible, the individual makes realistic efforts to change the situation,  using personal talents and abilities constructively and successfully. The  well-adjusted person is realistic and able to face facts whether they are  pleasant or unpleasant, and deals with them instead of merely worrying about  them or denying them. Well-adjusted mature persons are independent. They form  reasoned opinions and then act on them. They seek a reasonable amount of  information and advice before making a decision, and once the decision is made,  they are willing to face the consequences of it. They do not try to force others  to make decisions for them. An ability to love others is typical of the  well-adjusted individual. In addition, the mature well adjusted person is also  able to enjoy receiving love and affection and can accept a reasonable  dependence on others.”

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Selected References

Griggs, R. (2012). Psychology: A Concise Introduction, Third Edition. Worth publishers. Chapter 8 Personality Theories and Assessments (288-316)

thefreedictionary.com, sadistic personality (disorder)- definition of sadistic personality(disorder) in the Medical…., http://medical-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/personality ,

retrieved 10 December 2011.

           04 Lecture Notes, Course GE102. Psychology, Kathryn Sellers

 

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